I had my daughter when I wasnt TRYING to have children (with first husband)…we were just in the early 20s. I didnt have an easy pregnancy, and was not a “natural” first time mom…

Interestingly, I’ve not been able to have any other children since, though we cruised a few years before trying very hard to. I did keep babies and young children for other people so that my daughter would have some play companions, and it’s only my opionion, but it’s easier to have other children in the home rather than just one, if there’s a choice. The children have the most amazing world of imagination, and the more children there are, the less the parent is the sole source of attention and entertainment. Plus it builds the idea of how to function in a community, helping each other.

We werent really given that choice, and though we fostered some very young children, my first husband never wanted to adopt.

With your husband supporting either idea, whichever way you both decide (or both? ), you have great options

I can say this, too…I really wanted siblings for my daughter, and she wishes she had them, too. But she has a very wonderful life. Whatever happens for you, home will be a haven for your children, be it one or many

The house progress looks GREAT!

For me, I think having another child before now would have sent me to the looney farm. Plus, Kaia is so into having a brother or sister, I think now she would be more of a sister/helper as opposed to having two kids that I would have to do everything for if she were younger. I’m 33 now, and though I know I’m not old, the clock does feel like it is ticking… I don’t want to be 60 when the last child is going off to college or something like that. So, it seems like it’s now, or never. One thought I had was to have another child soon and then adopt a child, when we are settled into the house, that is younger than Kaia but older than the baby. Then the would all be ~2 years apart…